Hello and welcome!
My name is Rhi. I am a Welsh, queer, sex-positive, forward thinking sex coach and educator.
I am here because I have heard too many horror stories from people about their sex education, be that in school or by parents. People, especially marginalised people, are not achieving their full sexual potential because they are simply not equipped to know how to. The way we are taught about sex impacts our lives and relationships hugely. If people don’t have the tools to talk about sex, how are we expected to have fulfilling sex – with others and ourselves? We may be told how babies are made and how to avoid catching STD’s, but what about dating? First kisses? Exploring our own bodies and then another person’s for the first time? Communicating effectively with our partners about our desires? Having sex with a same sex partner or somebody who’s gender isn’t within the binary?
Instead, we learn from romantic comedies, erotic fiction or pornography, all of which are based in ideal, fictional worlds. Hollywood is telling us that we should be able to read each others’ minds, that the first kiss will always be unexpected and romantic, that we should be able to orgasm every time we have sex, and even more than that, at the same time as our partners! The other way we learn as adults is through self-help books or magazines. We are made to feel inadequate if we don’t fulfil the expectations that media and society has put on us.
There is a certain pride surrounding sex, which leads people to either lie or not say anything at all, maybe just like their parents did. Sex has become 2-dimensional and there is so much more to sexual relations than so many people think. This is why I am here to educate both young people and adults. The sooner we break these shameful cycles, the sooner we can have happier sex lives!
If you are an adult and would love to see what you can learn from me, take a look at my sex coaching page.
You don’t have to be a teacher. You could be a parent who wants their child/ren to receive the right sex and relationship education. See what I can offer you on my rates page.
Another way to learn from me without using these 2 services is by becoming one of my VIPs by pledging as little as a dollar a month to my Patreon account. This will give you access to articles I have written especially for my patrons, keep up to date with me as well as other benefits. I make sure my patrons are looked after!